Making
(and Keeping) New Year's Resolutions
In many ways, I believe that
resolutions for the new year suffer from quite a bit of hype and a great
deal of misunderstanding. They seem to be throw-away promises to ourselves
for many people, and it's nothing for most people to resolve to eat fewer
sweets during the year, break the resolution a week or two later, then
forget that they ever made it.
We joke about how quickly we break
our resolutions, completely ignoring the fact that we are, indeed, breaking
a promise to ourselves when we do so.
Of course, if you don't take the
promise seriously when you first make it, there's no real reason to continue
to try to keep that promise. If it's done just for fun on the spur of the
moment some New Year's Eve, then why would you or should you expect yourself
to hold to that promise for an entire year?
But there is another type of New
Year's Resolution, the kind that we definitely should pay close attention
to and do our best to stick to. These are the kinds of resolutions that
come as the result of introspection and reflection, the result of deep
thought concerning who we are as people and how that person compares to
who we wish to be.
We all have certain character traits
or habits that keep us from being that person we would be, and our resolutions
can be a way to help us to break certain habits or slightly modify the
ways we do certain things.
Maybe we can resolve to read books
that will help us deal with our anger or depression or feelings of alienation.
Perhaps we can even resolve to get counseling for certain things that we've
been trying hard to deal with on our own, but haven't been quite successful
in doing so.
There are other resolutions, too,
that deserve to be stuck to. We may resolve to write more letters to friends,
and if we stick to that, more of our friends will know the pleasure of
receiving a letter from us. We may resolve to do more kind acts throughout
the year, and again, others will benefit greatly from what we do.
But how do we stick to these resolutions?
There are a few keys that can help us to make resolutions that are realistic
and workable:
1. Be Specific. Instead of saying
"I'm going to eat fewer sweets this year," say "I'm going to limit myself
to eight servings per week of foods that are sweets, especially candy bars,
snack foods, and deserts." Instead of "I'm going to lose weight this year,"
"I'm going to lose a pound every two weeks" will be manageable and verifiable--plus,
you'll have lost 26 pounds over the next year if you stick to it.
If you say that you're going to write
more letters to friends you may or may not do so, but if you say that you're
going to write at least two letters a week to friends, you have a specific
goal that you can measure and verify, and you'll have written over 100
letters in 2001. Make your resolutions quantifiable and verifiable.
2. Be Realistic. Don't promise to
lose ten pounds by February first if you can't do it. Very few people can
safely lose that much weight that quickly. Don't promise to read a classic
novel a day in the new year. Don't promise to give 50% of your earnings
to charity if you can't afford it.
The more realistic you are, the more
likely you'll be to stick to your resolutions, and the more pride you'll
get out of having accomplished something valuable.
3. Be Others-focused. If all of your
resolutions focus on yourself and what you want, you'll be ignoring one
of the great truths in life--we find happiness and self-satisfaction in
doing things for others. Do you want to be happier? Then don't resolve
to become happier--resolve instead to do a good deed every day for someone
else, with no recognition or reward.
These can be simple deeds such as
helping a stranger carry something from the store to his or her car, or
donating a dollar when the person in front of you in the check-out line
comes up 95 cents short. These things are simple, they don't hurt us, and
they do make us happier.
4. Remind Yourself Constantly. Write
them down and post them where you'll see them many times every day. Remind
yourself constantly that you have a goal or three this year, and that you're
working to reach those goals. Post them on the bathroom mirror, on the
refrigerator door, on your car's steering wheel. Remind yourself.
5. Limit the Number. Don't make a
hundred resolutions so that by the end of the year you'll have two or three
that you really did accomplish ("Look, I resolved not to throw any litter
on the floor of the Taj Mahal this year, and I kept that one!). Make two
or three that are very special to you, and that you know will make you
a fuller, happier person by year's end if you stick to them. Then work
to keep them.
Your resolutions are promises to
yourself. Respect yourself--do your best to keep those promises. And if
you break them, don't give up--dedicate yourself anew to them in March
or July. And remember as the year goes on that there's nothing wrong with
Easter resolutions or first-day-of-spring resolutions!
May you have a beautiful year full
of love and peace and hope!
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