Soul Mate - Articles Index:
Soul
Mate - a Pain in the Neck by: Nisandeh Neta
Make
Time for Your Relationship by: Nisandeh Neta
What
Men Want From Women by: Bob Grant
Passion's
Search for Destiny by: Skye Thomas
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My Internet dating journey began
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Soul
Mate - a Pain in the Neck by: Nisandeh Neta
"and they lived happily ever after...
That is how our favorite childhood
fairytales have always ended.
That is how the romantic movies from
Hollywood always end.
And that is what the media agencies
advertisements promise will happen if we'll purchase the right toothpaste,
car, T-shirt or life insurance policy.
In short, ""...and they lived happily
ever after..."" is what we have been conditioned to believe our intimate
relationship should look like.
WAKE UP FOLKS!
I hate to tell you this, but... GROW
UP!
We were conditioned to believe that
life was going to be a bed of roses... a piece of cake... a walk in the
park.
Of course, what 'they' forgot to
mention when we were kids, was that roses have thorns, cakes contain calories,
and a walk in the park significantly increases your odds of stepping in
dog's you know what...
One of the major myths we were led
to believe in, since the 12th century, is the myth of romantic love.
A myth that nowadays has its new-age
label - the well-known 'Soul Mate'.
Romantic love is probably the most
popular path to personal satisfaction and self-esteem in the western world.
In our modern culture, we replaced
religion with romantic love as the means by which we seek ecstasy, meaning
and wholeness.
Romantic love does not only mean
'loving someone', it also means 'being in love'.
When we are in love we believe we
have found the ultimate meaning of life, as revealed in another human being
- our Soul Mate.
We feel 'instantaneous completeness'
and believe that the so-called missing piece to our life and to ourselves,
has finally been found.
Life suddenly seems to have a wholeness,
meaning, direction and purpose.
There is this intensity, which lifts
us high above our usual perception of reality.
For most people, these exciting feelings
are assumed to be the definite signs of the ultimate lover.
Unconsciously, we immediately create
a demand that our lover always provide us with this feeling of ecstasy
and intensity.
Despite that ecstasy, within a few
weeks (or months) we usually encounter feelings of loneliness, alienation
and frustration over our inability to create intimate, loving and committed
relationship.
Usually we blame our lover for failing
us.
What seldom occurs to us is that,
it is we who need to transform our own unconscious beliefs, expectations
and demands, which we impose upon our lover.
Once aware of it, we realize that
this relationship brings unhealed emotional 'stuff' into our conscious
mind.
Only from this perspective, can we
assume our responsibility for the situation and begin to deal with what
comes to the surface.
From this point of recognition, we
can then begin to heal ourselves.
I am convinced that we join in relationship
with another person with the purpose of supporting each other's personal-growth
process.
In order to support us on our path
we need this private trainer or coach to walk with us.
Imagine one of those famous football
or basketball trainers, as your personal coach, 24 hours a day, all year
round...
I can see your horrified expression
from here...
Well, this personal coach is your
Soul Mate.
... not exactly what you had in mind
when you saw that gorgeous someone at a party...
The role of your Soul Mate is to
confront you when you're losing your integrity, to kick your ass when you're
getting lazy, push your buttons until you gain clarity of your destructive
patterns, and so on...
If you and your partner had both
attained enlightenment, you probably wouldn't have so much trouble.
Your partner would have all the compassion
in the world, and you would have the overview to see your partner's contribution
to your life.
And then of course, if both of you
are fully enlightened, then you probably don't need a Soul Mate...
However, assuming that both of you
haven't reached that stage of full self-realization yet, life is a bit
more complicated...
As Karen Scalf Linamen suggests,
the phrase ""And they lived happily ever after"" is actually a long-forgotten
medieval punch line that, when translated, means, ""And, boy - ha ha! -
are they in for the surprise of their lives!""
Have fun..."
About The Author
Article by: Nisandeh Neta, author
of the best-seller book Jump-Start Your Life: http://www.jump-start-your-life.com
When you are ready to live a life
of purpose, passion, happiness, freedom, and success - download one of
his free books at: http://www.inspiration2go.com
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Make
Time for Your Relationship by: Nisandeh Neta
"We don’t have to wait till Valentine's
Day to think about relationships, whether we're in one or would like to
be. Most people would agree that romance is the key element beneath the
relationship pot.
Be it a steamy, sizzling wok or a
warm, steady slow-cooker, romance is the flame that generally gets-and
keeps-the heat of love alive. But what exactly is ""romance""?
When my wife and I were dating, we
were ultra-romantic in the usual sense of the word. There were roses, love
letters, surprise gifts, spontaneous adventures, and hours upon hours of
talking and... you know, that other stuff.
To be honest, though, some of the
initial romantic heat has cooled off a bit. Like couples everywhere, we
find ourselves pressured by the demands of daily life: work, children,
finances, household chores and commitments to extended family. Yet, through
all our years together, we have somehow found a way to balance these things.
And while our definition of romance
has changed somewhat according to our altered circumstances, we still manage
to keep our relationship fresh and exciting. White-hot all-consuming passion
has melted into love, consideration and affection.
But most of all, romance for us has
become a way of making the ""everyday"" exciting. It doesn't take a lot
of money or effort - just a commitment to making our relationship special
by paying attention to it and a willingness to make (here is the four-letter
secret)...
T-I-M-E
Romance keeps the spark alive. It
keeps a relationship vital and interesting. And... it takes time!
Nurturing your relationship, enhancing
it, and keeping it flourishing takes time, which is all too precious for
many couples.
But by establishing priorities and
setting goals, by making better use of the time you have, and by creating
time you thought you didn't have, you CAN find more time for each other.
The first thing to do is prioritize!
You can spend your time in one of
four ways, doing things that are:
-
Important and urgent (such as caring
for your child that has fallen down and is bleeding);
-
Important but not urgent (sitting together
sharing about your day);
-
Not important but urgent (taking your
suit for dry cleaning, before tomorrow's meeting);
-
Not important and not urgent (switching
on the TV and zapping between the channels).
When you look at all your time-consuming
tasks, let go of any task that is not important.
By focusing most of your time on
doing what is important but not urgent, you can eliminate a lot of the
crises (important and urgent) as well as the unimportant things. Your perspective
on what constitutes ""urgent"" will also change.
Here are a few important, but not
urgent, activities to put high on your priority list:
1. Have a regular daily chat.
Turn off the TV and the cell phone
and sit together for a short time, uninterrupted and face-to-face, every
day to share your thoughts and feelings. Tell each other the little details
as well as the big news. Focusing on each other for as little as fifteen
minutes can make a huge difference. You will both feel appreciated and
heard.
2. Spend one evening together each
week.
Plan a specific night each week for
your special date. Get a babysitter or trade childcare time with a friend.
Once scheduled, treat the commitment as if it were written in stone. Don't
break the date!
Take turns planning the activity
(and occasionally surprise each other). Take in a movie, go for a bike
ride, have a bubble bath, dance in your kitchen. Whether it's a dress-up
home-cooked meal or a picnic dinner on the living room floor, make it special.
It doesn't have to be expensive, just generous.
3. Spend some ""day"" time together.
Get up earlier than normal and have
breakfast together at a coffee shop. Commute together if at all possible.
Meet at lunchtime for a quiet meal or a ""stolen moment"". Rendezvous after
work for a drink and an appetizer before dinner. Meet at a park for a walk
in the fresh air.
You'll be surprised how lively conversation
can become when you're meeting in the middle of the day, away from the
household chores.
The anticipation of a planned evening
or activity can be fun and exciting, even if (especially if!) you've been
together for a long time.
By making a date, you'll set aside
the special time your relationship deserves and rediscover the romance
that started it all."
About The Author
Nisandeh Neta, author of the best-seller
e-course for couples The Art of Lovemaking: http://www.art-of-lovemaking.com
If you wish to create a happy, successful
and passionate relationship, subscribe now to his free Love & Marriage
newsletter at: http://www.no-problem-marriage-counseling.com
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What
Men Want From Women by: Bob Grant
Actually, it’s pretty simple. Deep
inside the heart of every man is a secret wish to be trusted. How many
times have men said to their wives, “If you would just trust me.” Many
men wonder why it seems so difficult for their wives to do something so
seemingly simple. The answer stems from the physiological differences between
the sexes.
It begins at birth when little boys
are given a distinct physical advantage over little girls by having higher
levels of testosterone. With testosterone comes the physical strength to
both defend themselves from danger and/or run away from a threat. Most
little girls don’t have that ability. They don’t have the strength to defend
themselves in a physically fight when they feel threatened. If a boy trusts
someone who in turn hurts them, they can always defend themselves physically
(or try to). Little girls don’t have that physical option of power. Since
a person can only trust from a position of strength, those same little
girls will grow up into women who naturally have a more difficult time
“trusting” when they feel vulnerable.
So men, when you ask the woman of
your choice to simply “trust you,” it’s not that she can’t, she’s just
more vulnerable than you. If you want her to trust you, she needs something
that will help develop that trust.
Perhaps even a tool or gesture that
she can “count on ” until that trust with you is established. Thankfully
this tool already exist and is known every woman. What cultivates trust
in a woman is a man who consistently keeps his word. Making a promise is
meaningless if there is no follow through.
A woman needs to SEE her man fulfill
his promises because seeing is always more powerful than hearing. Allow
me to illustrate. Imagine someone told you that I was the meanest person
they had ever met. For months all you heard was how terrible I treated
my family and friends. Then one day you met me and during the course of
our meeting you begin to notice that I didn’t seem to be as horrible as
you were led to believe. I actually appeared to be rather pleasant. Would
you change your entire opinion about me from one visit? Probably not! However,
if you saw me respond consistently with kindness and humility over a period
of weeks, your opinion of me would begin to change. A paradox has just
been established. The kindness you have seen in me for the last few weeks
does not match what you have heard about me. All the rumors of how mean
I am begin to fade into darkness because of my consistent actions. Over
time what you see will replace most if not all of your concerns about my
character.
Men, when the woman you love sees
your words lining up with your actions, trust will naturally follow. When
you don’t keep your word it causes your wife/girlfriend to become fearful.
From her perspective, she has entrusted you with her Heart and WANTS to
trust you. She simply needs your help in giving you what you want.
About The Author
Bob Grant is a relationship coach
who has just released the book, "The Woman Men Adore...and Never Want to
Leave," which is available at relationshiphq@aol.com.
He is married with a brand new baby girl!
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Passion's
Search for Destiny by: Skye Thomas
She was haunted by a man whom she
had never met. He came to her in her dreams. It was not just a reoccurring
dream about some random Prince Charming archetype. This guy had flaws,
he was just as mixed up and lost as she was. She would wake up from a dead
sleep to the sound of his voice whispering in her ear, "Look out the window."
She would argue in her half asleep stupor, "Be quiet! I'm sleeping!" Again,
he would whisper, "Look out the window." She would eventually drag herself
up from the cozy comfort of her bed to gaze out the window. There was the
full moon big and beautiful. It magically called to her from somewhere
in the back of her soul's oldest memories.
She could feel him there, her ghostly
suitor. She knew that if she spun around quickly, he would be standing
there behind her, but every time she turned, there was nothing there but
silence and darkness. Somewhere in the recesses of her mind, she could
hear him silently promising, "Wait for me... I'll find you if it's the
last thing I do." She would toss and turn for the rest of the night feeling
his intense presence and wrestling with the fact that he wasn't 'real'.
As the years went on, she would learn
that he did not know her name and that he called her Destiny. She began
to call him Passion. She was not allowed to search for him. She was to
sit still and wait. It was part of the game, part of the agreement. His
challenge for this lifetime was to search for his Destiny. After all, what
is Passion without Destiny? He had to learn how to recognize her. She had
to learn how to wait in blind faith that he would find her. Both had to
live real lives with real mates. Neither could shake the very real belief
that the other one existed somewhere out there.
How many times would she convince
herself that the man standing in front of her was her Passion? How many
times would it not be true? How would she know when it was finally him?
How many women would he mistake for her? Would Passion and Destiny burn
out and give up, writing it all off as just some figment of their imaginations?
Do soulmates really exist? Or are we looking for an impossible ideal?
A soulmate is not just someone that
you love from the depth of your soul. They are not just someone that you
have a karmic connection with. They are not just someone that you want
to spend the rest of your life with. They are someone you miss hanging
out with before you have even met. They are the one that upon first meeting
you simply sigh in relief and say, "Ah there you are, I've been waiting
for you." There is no questioning, no 'getting to know you' stage. You
have known them for all of eternity. You may want to share stories of your
journeys and how you came to find each other, but you already 'know' them
as well as you know yourself. You see yourself in their eyes. You understand
them on a soul level because you share the same source.
Unfortunately, it is not always a
blissful experience. Most of us are not ready to meet our other halves
because we are not even ready to look ourselves in the mirror. Until you
can truly love and accept yourself, then you will not be able to love and
accept your soulmate. They are not some fantasy person sent to save you
from the ups and downs of real life. They will not make your life a magic
perfect delight. They will simply love you on a level that is unlike any
other.
If you do not hear the call of a
long lost soulmate, count yourself as blessed. You have the freedom to
love anyone you choose. You get to make any kind of match that pleases
you. Do not try to force a soulmate relationship. Be content in knowing
that you are exactly where you are supposed to be, doing exactly what you
are meant to do.
If on the other hand, you do hear
your Passion calling, or you see Destiny in your dreams, then my prayers
go out to you my dear. For yours is that path of finding the proverbial
needle in a haystack. Don't ask me to tell you if they're worth the hunt.
Can you bring yourself to give up the hunt even if you tried? Only you
can gauge your ability to silence that cosmic voice calling you to hold
out for that certain person that only you will recognize. Only you know
what it's going to take to find them. Perhaps the angels will smile upon
the two of you and help with some old fashioned happenstance. Perhaps you
will telepathically connect and find your way to each others' arms. Perhaps
you were just meant to experience the longing. Perhaps you will go through
some bad relationships first so that when you find your Destiny, she'll
be that much sweeter and more appreciated. Nobody knows for sure how it
will play out. But I believe that on some level, deep down, you know.
Did you already meet your soulmate
and choose to walk away from each other? Was the intensity too much? Did
it scare you? Was it overwhelming? Was it too hard? Will you have a second
chance with them later down the road? Will you miss them forever? Yeah,
probably. Will you learn something about unconditional love from them?
Yeah, probably.
Did you find each other and recognize
they shared the same soul as you? Did you hold on tight? Count yourselves
as the very rare and incredibly blessed. Cherish the gift of finding yourself
in another's eyes and seeing just how beautiful you are.
Copyright 2004, Skye Thomas, Tomorrow's
Edge
About The Author
Skye Thomas began writing books
and articles with an everyday practical approach to life in 1999 after
twenty years of studying spirituality, metaphysics, astrology, personal
growth, motivation, and parenting. After years of high heels and business
clothes, she is currently enjoying working from home in her pajamas. Go
to http://www.TomorrowsEdge.net
to read more of her articles and to get a free preview of one of her books.
Skye@TomorrowsEdge.net
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